I’ve been on social media for how many years now. I got accounts on Instagram, Twitter, Google +, Facebook, Pinterest, Goodreads, Tumblr, LinkedIn, Flickr, VSCO, Friendster and Myspace (when they were still the “in” social sites), Photobucket, WordPress, VK and whatever forum platforms I signed up for that I can’t remember on top of my head right now. Sometimes I interact with people, most times I’m a lurker. I am not always online, if that’s what you’re thinking, I’m just an internet savvy who likes creating accounts on different sites and forgetting about them unless I visit the site often. I have periods of being a social hermit. I need that because being always online is not good in the head. Gusto ko namang magpamiss minsan. Charaught.
Lately, I’m thinking of giving up some of the most time eating social media accounts I have. Yes, the big three.
Twitter. I gave up Twitter sometime last year. I had a Twitter account before, that I ended deactivating and then I created a new one which I don’t really use. I don’t even have the app on my phone for a year and a half now. I don’t even visit the site. The only time I see it is if there’s an article I happen to read that has references or screenshots from Twitter users. I still miss the times I could rant anytime I want in 140 characters without getting too much attention from my relatives since not all of them are there unlike on Facebook where even your lola (possibly) has an account.
Instagram. I am not always on IG. I still have it but I have intervals of how often I post a picture. There was even a time my feed is dead for 6 months, the shortest was 2 or 3 months. I lost a couple of non-real life friend followers for that online silence. IG is not as toxic as the other two for me. I know a lot of people who are quitting is because of the envy they feel if someone they know posted a recent travel, a purchase or whatever. I am not really the type to get overly affected of the things I see on this platform. I tried the travel thing in 2015 but eventually it died down. I find IG an instrument to show your artistry on things you like and love doing. I like taking photos and editing them. That’s why I have accounts on VSCO, Flickr, and Photobucket. I’ll make another post on this IG OC-ness I have which is the reason why I sometimes don’t post anything. The editing process, the brainstorming of how my feed should look, what tone should be seen for a number of post, etcetera are the bane of my IG life.
Facebook. I recently deleted the app on my phone for reasons I don’t want to list down, (like stalking and ranting and hate-mongering and the list could go on—ay sabi ko pala ayaw kong ilista). Of all three (all social media platforms actually), Facebook is the most time consuming account I have. I could spend an hour or so scrolling down my news feed. It’s a tsismis haven. You don’t have to go out of the house, call or text your friends/relatives to catch up with their lives anymore. You only need to log in on Facebook, you’ll get all the update you need—even their rants with their latest enemies. The most absurd I’ve read was a rant from a previous schoolmate to someone who owes them money and hasn’t paid yet. I just cringe at times since there are issues, problems, personal dilemmas that shouldn’t be mentioned online. I also rant, even write about it on this blog, but I have my limits. Those people I see on Facebook? They don’t. What is more stressing on Facebook right now are the trolls and fake news. There was even a time I hated reading political news. The comments are so out of this world, the best thing to do is to close the app rather than start an online tasteless, mindless debates with trolls.
Aside from those and the numerous selfies I see every day. The reason why you won’t hear from me on Facebook as often as before is because I don’t like how the app is affecting my life. I could easily stalk people I should not stalk or I should stop stalking. You set standards on relationships. Today a relationship is not official unless it’s Facebook official. I may post occasional pictures for my relatives to see or just the occasional update to let my friends know I am still alive but beyond that, I won’t be as active as before. I may reinstall the app later on once I finally had it out on my system or visit it on a browser if I could. Right now, I like my life without Twitter and Facebook. I still have Messenger. I can’t delete that, it’s my primary communication with my siblings and closest relatives so I could still be reached.
Could you give these things up too?
– wl, a.